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7 things I’ve learned from the first half of 2017

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My best friend & I

Enjoy the little things in life

I think most people forget to, or life is just too busy for these people that take no time to do this. Even then, cherishing things that make you happy needs some sort of investment. Go outside, have that hot chocolate you’ve been looking forward to drinking, read a book or watch a tv show on Netflix, whatever it is that makes you happy do more of it when life gets rough.

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Chase after your passions, don’t just think about them

I’ve been blessed that i’ve always had this passion in me to learn. I don’t care if that makes me a nerd, so be it! A lot of people are talkers or dreamers rather. There is a huge difference from actually saying that you will do something, to you actually doing it. There’s only so much advice that a person can offer you, but it is solely up to that individual to seek out help and invest in elements which will benefit them in the long run.

Patience, listening and confidence will get you far in life

All these things I used to not be. Then two months or so ago, I reflected on what actually makes an individual successful and to be deemed a “good person.” It got me thinking a while and then I remembered the qualities a person who once was close to me once had and i’ve never looked back. Since i started believing in myself and proving to myself as much as i’ve been proving to others as well, that I can actually do anything once I put my mind to it, the more i’m believing that these three elements have gotten me far.

People will continually come in and out of your life, you just have to accept it

I’m one of those people who hate saying goodbye. I meet lovely people in the most unusual ways, but when i do form that friendship with them, i don’t want to say goodbye, but sometimes we have to. For example, the thing I’m talking about could be meeting a person one day who went to this same book talk as you. You make friends, but that’s all there is to it, you never see them again. You both have your lives to keep living. Although my mum told me, it’s the people who make time for you, there the one’s you should maintain your friendship with. The others aren’t worth worrying about.

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Bad things will occur sometimes before good things will happen

My best friend and I know  a thing or two about bad things happening before something good in life comes a long. Always remember that there are people who you can reach out to no matter what!

It’s okay to be single

It’s been a rough month so far, but unfortunately my boyfriend and I decided to end our relationship. While we were together for a long time, we knew from the beginning of our relationship that we both wanted different things in life. Even though we tried so hard to change each other, people don’t change unless they truly want to themselves. The end result of us breaking up was because of our life goals. Don’t give up on your dreams for anyone, unless they are willing to compromise and be with you to achieve yours, just as much as you should be trying to help them achieve theirs. Although this meant the end of our relationship and the end of the last few years we spent together. I haven’t written anything about this since it happened, because its been really difficult to. The point I was trying to make, is that at first I was scared to be single. What would I do with myself when I wasn’t working? who would I care for? who would ask me about how my day was going or have dinner with me every so often. After a few days of thinking that what happened, happened for the best, I began to surround myself with people who truly loved me for who I was. Sure it’s very sad to see someone who was once very warm to you turn ice cold but in the end is that really who you want in your life? Do you really want to be with someone who doesn’t support what you want to do in life? When I came to terms with all this, I realised that because I had invested all these years looking after someone else, I forgot what was really important: looking after me. I had more time to think about how I was going to chase my dream career and actually live it, have time to find out who I was, make time for my family and friends and watch cheesy movies that made me laugh. Being outdoors and surrounding myself with people also helped, but everyone has their own different way when coping with these things. Having a puppy also healed most my pain too!

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Surround yourself with positive people who make you happy

If it wasn’t for my family, my puppy and my best girlfriend, I wouldn’t be where i’am today. It’s so difficult at times to surround yourself with people who are positive, because there are not much left of those rare polished gems who are not jealous of someone else’s life. Just as much as there are good people who will care, be loyal, honest and love you no matter what, there are also negative people who would rather see you fail than succeed. I’ve learned to let go of the people who were causing distress in my life and chose at the end to not be associated with them. In order to move forward in life, we need to keep maintaining the healthy balance of friends and family who love and accept you. Having this in mind, you will go far.

Lizzie x

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